Been a while since I've posted because life just became overwhelming for me. There for a bit just surviving was taking a lot of energy. I am hoping that this will all change over the next few months. One of the ways I have learned to channel my new interests is through Pintrest.
My friends all said once you start Pintrest, it is hard to get off of it. They were correct. I tend to look at Pintrest before bed. I have been having fun finding healthy recipes that I hope to make now that I have the time to make real food.
Today is my first day not on school insurance - that is really awkward as I have been on i for so many years. I went to PT and she said my co-pay was $50.00 to which I replied - that takes care of PT. I was super bummed because the therapist I had today really helped my neck - a lot!! When I got home she (Alisha ) called me back to tell me there had been an error and that there was no co-pay. A miracle for sure - now I could use one more big one. I am really about out of money ($328.00) and my retirement did not come. I will call PSERS to find out if they know when so I can try to make appropriate plans. At the very least I would like to make sure my mortgage gets paid - That runs a bit over 1200.00. I have prayed through this entire mess that God would supply my needs according to his riches and glory. Or is that in glory? One thing I do know for sure is that at the end of February I should for sure be getting my retirement and hopefully then I can start getting back on track with my bills. I have learned to block the calls from the credit card companies - which is fabulous!!!
My therapist comes today - I am relieved he does - This ordeal really has taken quite a toll on me. I know you wouldn't think so - but the emotional ups and downs of all of this has just left me depleted of ___________________ you fill in the blank - you will probably be correct. The hefty doses of depression medicine help a lot - I am a bit flat affectively - but better flat than something else. It's funny though - I can still get depressed a bit even with the meds.
Speaking of Meds. I forgot to take mine before bed last night. I had the craziest dreams. I was being chased by men with guns, I was locked up and tortured, and all of this was happening in the hallways of Ephrata. Someone will have a field day with that one! I finally forced myself to wake up because I was so scared. I had an anxiety attack when I woke up because I heard a noise and thought someone had broken in to the house. I realized I had not taken my meds. - so I got up and took them. I also checked the lock on the door downstairs to make sure it was locked. Once I had the meds in me and knew the front door was lucked - After about 10 mins. on Pintrest - I was ready to go back to sleep. Sleep was much better from this point on.
I am hoping that once my life settles down and I get used to the changes, I can get off some of these meds. I do know a lot of people take meds. for depression and ADD or ADHD - I also know that when these people start feeling better, they stop taking them. I know that is a huge mistake. These meds we take mess with our brain chemistry so much you can't imagine. Stopping and starting meds. is like starting and stopping your car - eventually the starter will go. Remember - if you take them and you are feeling good - it is because of the medicine that you are feeling good - nothing you've done. Guaranteed that if you suddenly go off - you will not feel so good!!
Even though I am at the twilight of my life - I feel like I am suddenly learning again - and almost back in high school. New things to learn and learning more about me. I wish all of you the same - And I will try to keep my blog going a little more regularly.
Cheers!
Showing posts with label Aging. Show all posts
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Monday, February 2, 2015
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
The Pain of aging
It's been a number of days since I last wrote. Mostly this has to do with the depression I am experiencing. It is true - it does render you rather useless. I was thinking yesterday how much I love sleeping because I dream and in my dreams - everything is happy and I am healthy. For almost 3 years now I have dealt with chronic pain in my knee. I saw a patient today leaving my doctor's office who was 2 weeks out from a partial replacement - she was walking normally - no pain - I don't even know what that is like. The doctor told me today that she was the norm and for some reason I have not been normal during all of this. Now I know that I am anything but normal - I have known that from the time I started to twirl a baton. It was made clear to me that what I was doing was not normal - at least for me - in my town - and even my high school. I was basically an only child with very few children around that were my age for me to play with. So I twirled because it was something I could do by myself. And really that was the main reason I did - that and it allowed me to forget all the stuff that was going on in my life. I would pretend that there was an audience watching me. I had music - first with my brother's big reel to reel tape recorder and then later with my own small one. Sometimes I would just hum the music in my head. Back in the day - football games always showed the half-time shows, so I would sit in front of the TV to record the bands. That was my music. So when I would go out and start to practice, I could really lose myself in my twirling. It was great exercise - at least the way I would do it and when I was done I always felt better.
This was something that I continued to do through out most of my life. When I needed a break from everything - I would get my stuff out and practice. Later, when I switched from batons to rifles, flags, and sabers I would get a boat load of that stuff out too. When I went to college I had an entire soccer field to play on - or I would practice in front of the student education center because it had huge windows. It would not be uncommon to walk out of night class and there I would be with my music practicing my butt off. One year I was asked to perform for homecoming. I had taught another one of my friends, Dan, to twirl too. He was quite good all things considered. He was a great soccer player and today is happily married with several children and has his own medical practice in York. We did a duet to Billy Joel's "The Ballad of Billy the Kid." We were both huge Billy Joel fans. Later that day, during the halftime of the soccer game, I performed for everyone at the soccer game. I also performed at a basketball game. Dan and I also performed in a talent show that was sponsored by my dorm. We did a reprise of our Billy Joel show, but for the end, I had my twirling squad from Phoenixville come out and provide the back drop for the ending. It was pretty hilarious. The Phoenixville girls performed a number and then I was transformed into a cat. Yep CATS was popular and so I was a cat. I performed music from the show. It was a lot of fun for sure.
My roommate, Dave, always told everyone he was my manager and wanted 10% of the cut. Dave was great guy. We lived together for about two and three quarter years. I'll have to tell you about the roommate I had while Dave was studying in Japan. He was from Manhiem Township, the place I live now and knew the girlfriend I had when I started working at Ephrata. But I digress ......... Every year the seniors create a convocation as their farewell to the school. This was the one convocation everybody on campus went to because it was so good. Upon my graduation I was asked to perform at this event. I was very nervous but received an amazing standing O - when I went into class later that day, my Lit Prof, who was also my advisor, spent over half the class questioning me about my talent and skill. She also called it an art.
You know even after I won all those awards between my junior and senior year, it never, to me anyway, seemed to make a difference to those in my community. I was a world champion, but at home I was Billy Harker the baton twirler. Now I don't want this to seem like I am looking for a pity party for me or that I am seeking adulation - I'm not really - it's just that nobody knew what was going on with me. At college, for the first time in my life I actually felt appreciated and supported by most students. The entire time I was on campus I never heard the word faggot thrown in my face. I don't doubt some were thinking it, but I never heard it. I never felt like someone was waiting around the corner so he could beat me up. This would be a fear I struggled with beginning in Jr. High up until I graduated. We actually had to get a restraining order put on this one guy my sophomore year because he threatened to kill me.
After college, I still continued to "play band". That was what I called it. I would do this for hours, just as I had when I was at home. It still provided me the outlet I needed to get my brain cleaned out. Some of my peers used drugs and alcohol to do that, I used performing - performing was my drug. Every place I landed after graduation, I would find a place I could go and set up shop with the car stereo and a trunk full of color guard equipment and would just play band.
I have been in my current house seven years this October 1st. The first five years I was here I would practice at Manheim Twp high school, sometimes a deserted parking lot near my house, or any area I could find. It was still my drug and still made me feel ok. If I was working with a group and they were not doing too well, I could go out and spin for myself and feel better about myself and the group, knowing that I was doing all I could do for the group I was teaching. There lack of commitment to color guard was on them not on me. However, no matter how this would play out - it was still frustrating. For the past three years maybe a bit less, I have not really been able to go out side and "play band". I had the surgeries on my knee in the hopes that I could get back to doing something I loved as much as people love to go skiing. To think, at this point, after my meeting today, I may never be able to do that again is devastating! Marching band, drum corps, and winter guard have been the whole of my life. To know that age is finally taking its' toll on me is just something I was not prepared for at all.
I am fortunate to have, in my lifetime, to have been able to have written award winning drill for Phoenixville and several other bands, to teach well over 100 color guards up and down the east coast, and to work with such a large variety of people.
Man that felt good. A little sad too, but it was good for me to get some of this out. Again, I am not looking for anything in response to this post. I wrote this more for me than anyone else. Losing yourself bit by bit as you grow older is so difficult - something I am really struggling with more than I would have thought.
This was something that I continued to do through out most of my life. When I needed a break from everything - I would get my stuff out and practice. Later, when I switched from batons to rifles, flags, and sabers I would get a boat load of that stuff out too. When I went to college I had an entire soccer field to play on - or I would practice in front of the student education center because it had huge windows. It would not be uncommon to walk out of night class and there I would be with my music practicing my butt off. One year I was asked to perform for homecoming. I had taught another one of my friends, Dan, to twirl too. He was quite good all things considered. He was a great soccer player and today is happily married with several children and has his own medical practice in York. We did a duet to Billy Joel's "The Ballad of Billy the Kid." We were both huge Billy Joel fans. Later that day, during the halftime of the soccer game, I performed for everyone at the soccer game. I also performed at a basketball game. Dan and I also performed in a talent show that was sponsored by my dorm. We did a reprise of our Billy Joel show, but for the end, I had my twirling squad from Phoenixville come out and provide the back drop for the ending. It was pretty hilarious. The Phoenixville girls performed a number and then I was transformed into a cat. Yep CATS was popular and so I was a cat. I performed music from the show. It was a lot of fun for sure.
My roommate, Dave, always told everyone he was my manager and wanted 10% of the cut. Dave was great guy. We lived together for about two and three quarter years. I'll have to tell you about the roommate I had while Dave was studying in Japan. He was from Manhiem Township, the place I live now and knew the girlfriend I had when I started working at Ephrata. But I digress ......... Every year the seniors create a convocation as their farewell to the school. This was the one convocation everybody on campus went to because it was so good. Upon my graduation I was asked to perform at this event. I was very nervous but received an amazing standing O - when I went into class later that day, my Lit Prof, who was also my advisor, spent over half the class questioning me about my talent and skill. She also called it an art.
You know even after I won all those awards between my junior and senior year, it never, to me anyway, seemed to make a difference to those in my community. I was a world champion, but at home I was Billy Harker the baton twirler. Now I don't want this to seem like I am looking for a pity party for me or that I am seeking adulation - I'm not really - it's just that nobody knew what was going on with me. At college, for the first time in my life I actually felt appreciated and supported by most students. The entire time I was on campus I never heard the word faggot thrown in my face. I don't doubt some were thinking it, but I never heard it. I never felt like someone was waiting around the corner so he could beat me up. This would be a fear I struggled with beginning in Jr. High up until I graduated. We actually had to get a restraining order put on this one guy my sophomore year because he threatened to kill me.
After college, I still continued to "play band". That was what I called it. I would do this for hours, just as I had when I was at home. It still provided me the outlet I needed to get my brain cleaned out. Some of my peers used drugs and alcohol to do that, I used performing - performing was my drug. Every place I landed after graduation, I would find a place I could go and set up shop with the car stereo and a trunk full of color guard equipment and would just play band.
I have been in my current house seven years this October 1st. The first five years I was here I would practice at Manheim Twp high school, sometimes a deserted parking lot near my house, or any area I could find. It was still my drug and still made me feel ok. If I was working with a group and they were not doing too well, I could go out and spin for myself and feel better about myself and the group, knowing that I was doing all I could do for the group I was teaching. There lack of commitment to color guard was on them not on me. However, no matter how this would play out - it was still frustrating. For the past three years maybe a bit less, I have not really been able to go out side and "play band". I had the surgeries on my knee in the hopes that I could get back to doing something I loved as much as people love to go skiing. To think, at this point, after my meeting today, I may never be able to do that again is devastating! Marching band, drum corps, and winter guard have been the whole of my life. To know that age is finally taking its' toll on me is just something I was not prepared for at all.
I am fortunate to have, in my lifetime, to have been able to have written award winning drill for Phoenixville and several other bands, to teach well over 100 color guards up and down the east coast, and to work with such a large variety of people.
Man that felt good. A little sad too, but it was good for me to get some of this out. Again, I am not looking for anything in response to this post. I wrote this more for me than anyone else. Losing yourself bit by bit as you grow older is so difficult - something I am really struggling with more than I would have thought.
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